When it comes to planning your day, at least a few surprises are, well, straight-up unavoidable. Of course, it pays to be prepared, but know that even the most
meticulous preparation won’t make you completely curveball-exempt.
1. Throwing a casual wedding is just as much work as throwing a fancy one
Whether the napkins you’ll use are made of paper or of silk flown in from France that was handwoven by master craftsmen. And whether you’ll serve French fries or filet, wear couture or a simple vintage frock, the same holds true.
Solved: Though this realization tends to hit brides-to-be like the proverbial ton of bricks, the realization alone is half the battle. The second half? Allotting a generous portion of time in which to plan — sans panic. No matter your style, a year is typically just about right.
2. You’re talking wedding way, way more than you think
Have you busted your bestie rolling her eyes when she thought you were too busy expanding on the virtues of fondant vs. buttercream to see? Did your mom start to glaze over the last time you tried to show her pictures of bouquets? Yeah, you’re guilty.
Solved: First, accept that you might not actually be able to press pause on the compulsive wedding chatter. Hey, you’re excited, and that’s cool! But expecting one or two people to listen to all of it? Too much. Share the love. Spread the obsessing out over a wider circle of friends (that’s what cubemates are for, right?) and space it out, so you can spare them all, including your fiance, from bride (that would be you) burnout.
3. Words like “classic” are highly subjective, Highly
Your definition of the word “classic” may mean preppy yellow and blue at a yacht club, but to your planner, it could mean black-tie ballroom with ornate décor, and to your florist, it might mean a tented affair with a romantic look — leaving you with a confused aesthetic that doesn’t fit anyone’s vision.
Solved: No matter what detail you’re planning, a picture is worth a thousand words. Show your vendors what “classic” means to you by bringing them examples of what you want, lest you waste precious time (or budget) wandering down the road to so-not-what-you-wanted town.
4. You will randomly stress-cry over something, be it tablecloths, invites or the dress your mom has chosen
Your florist tells you pink peonies won’t be in-season, and you burst into tears. No matter that you don’t even like peonies — or pink. Your mom is mad that your fiance’s stepmom chose the same color dress, and suddenly, you’re bawling that your marriage is doomed.
Solved: Let ’em flow, but then let it go. Think of it as a sign you need a wedding planning break.
5. You will randomly happy-cry over something, be it tablecloths, invites or the dress your mom has chosen
As you mail your invites, you can barely choke back the tears long enough to say “hand stamp.” Your mom shows you the muumuu she plans to wear, and you tear up over how pretty she looks.
Solved: Savor it. As cliché as it sounds, these are the moments you’ll remember forever.
6. At least one not-so-minor unexpected expense will pop up
Whether it’s weather (gotta rent a tent ’cause it looks like rain) or whimsy (gotta get a backup gown ’cause I can’t make up my mind), something that wasn’t in your budget will materialize.
Solved: Even the tightest budget needs a little wiggle room. Build in a buffer (5 percent of the overall budget) from the start, so you won’t have to worry every time the wind blows.